‘Tis the season, so let’s talk about it: it’s a thing, among us Pagans.
Cemeteries, bones, skulls, ravens. Vampires and absinthe and Ye Olde Occulte Symboles.
Dark. Spooky. Sexy.
It scares some people. Particularly non-Pagan, white-light-obsessed Christians and New Age folks.
At this time of year, the Pagan community leaps with particular gusto into the seasonal enthusiasm for skulls and graves and blood. Much of this is because our paths, rather than phobically avoiding the subject of death, actually embrace it as a necessary and inevitable part of the human story. We understand that life is not just light, but is also darkness. That the human experience is not only of joy and discovery and striving, but of horror and suffering.
And sex. In gothic aesthetic, the sex and death frequently go together. Thus the gothic obsession with vampires.
Some of it is our joy in natural objects. Bones and antlers and skulls are cool. For others, it is about the presumed gloomy/spooky/gothic aesthetic of the gods they revere.
Sometimes I think people get a bit carried away by it. That said, I’ll take it over pastels and polo shirts any day of the week.
But more than anything, I suspect that what this enthusiasm is really about is a hunger for the intensity of experience. A willingness to confront even pain, even sorrow, even death in order truly to feel in a world that commodifies experience and meets suffering with contempt or saccharine platitudes. To take joy in eerie moods and night chills.
Many of our rituals—at any time of year—are about exactly that: to feel intensely and with authenticity.
So when you see goths—real goths, not just people in “sexy witch” outfits they put together at the Halloween store—see them for more than a morbid subculture.
Their way may not be my way, entirely, but they’re honest about who they are and what they want. They have chosen not to pretend. They have chosen to wear their feelings rather than hide them.
That takes courage. So give them some credit.
And who knows? They might be Pagans, too.